You love your kids. But you don’t recognize yourself.
Therapy for Moms Beyond Postpartum In-Person in San Francisco and Online Across CA
You’re at the end of your rope.
YOUR KIDS ARE GROWING—INTO TODDLERS, PRESCHOOLERS, OR TEENAGERS. THEY’RE MORE INDEPENDENT, MORE OPINIONATED, AND MORE LIKELY TO PUSH BACK.
So maybe now you’re snapping more than you want to. Maybe you shut down, lose patience, or feel stuck in these constant battles with them.
And sometimes, those reactions feel uncomfortably familiar.
You catch yourself responding the way your parents did. You hear your mom’s voice come out of your mouth. Or maybe you’re trying so hard not to parent the way you were parented that you second-guess yourself and feel pulled in a hundred different directions.
Maybe your family is going through a major life transition; a separation, divorce, welcoming a new sibling, or a new diagnosis for your child. Or maybe you’ve simply hit a wall in motherhood. You're trying so hard to hold it together for your kids that you’ve left yourself behind.
It feels like you’ve lost touch with parts of yourself outside of being a mom. You barely have time for yourself anymore and you can’t remember the last time you did something just because you enjoyed it. The kids. Work. Appointments. Laundry. Meals. The invisible mental load of holding a household together. It feels like you're drowning in it all.
MAYBE YOU'RE HERE BECAUSE....
You find yourself feeling irritable, rage, snappy, and guilty after reacting to your kids.
You feel emotionally drained, touched out, and overstimulated most days.
You feel like you’re going through the motions most days, finding it hard to feel joy.
You feel overwhelmed by everyone always needing something from you.
You’re caring for everyone else, always putting yourself last, and feeling guilty anytime you try to take care of yourself.
You don’t know who you are anymore, outside of being a mom.
You feel like you always need to be “on”, unable to relax.
You’re going through a divorce or other major life transition.
You feel overwhelmed navigating the unique challenges of raising your neurodivergent child (ren)
You and your child (ren) keep clashing and you don’t know how to understand what is going on.
Old childhood memories or trauma are resurfacing
As much as you’re trying to hold it together and manage all of your responsibilities, it doesn’t feel like enough.
Motherhood doesn’t have to feel this heavy.
HOW WE’LL WORK TOGETHER
Therapy that meets you where you are
I truly believe that you make sense. And what you’re feeling now doesn’t define you or mean you’re doing this wrong. In our work together, we’ll make space to better understand your emotions, your patterns, and how stress and overwhelm may be showing up in your body. We’ll also explore how your past experiences, relationships, and outside pressures may be shaping how you’re feeling right now.
Our work together will be shaped around what is actually realistic and possible for you right now. As a mom myself, I understand that your bandwidth and needs can look very different right now. We’ll start by building a connection, identifying and strengthening your current support and resources, and what solutions and tools feels realistic for you.
I draw from attachment-based, DBT, somatic, social justice, and solution-focused approaches to help you better understand yourself and your needs, feel more grounded and confident in your decisions, and experience motherhood with more presence and self-compassion.
It’s time to feel more like yourself again.
Understand where your irritability and rage comes from so you can pause before reacting.
Feel calmer in your mind and body.
Learn how to navigate hard moments with your kids with more confidence and less guilt.
Become more present in your life and with your kids.
Feel more like yourself again outside of motherhood — while still embracing being a mom.
Make space for your own needs, interests, and rest again.
Know what your boundaries and limits are and how to communicate them.
Ask for help without feeling like you are a burden or failing.
Your kids aren’t the only ones that need care.
FAQs
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No, you do not need to have all the symptoms or a diagnosis of depression, anxiety, or trauma to receive help. If you feel like there’s something you want to process and have space for during this difficult time, that is enough to get the support you need.
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Yes working with moms with childhood trauma is one of my specialities. Sometimes the things we thought we moved past come back during this period in life and can even show up in our parenting.
In our work together, we will explore how your past experiences and relationships have shaped the patterns and behaviors you are seeing in your life right now and tools to heal and cope differently.
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It will depend on the age of your child and whether they are able to remain distracted while we hold our session. As kids get older, they become more aware and observant so it may be difficult for them to hear you discuss sensitive topics in front of them. I am happy to discuss this in more detail during our consultation call.
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Yes, I currently offer short-term couples therapy for expecting couples who would like support and guidance on how to prepare their relationship when baby arrives. If couples are needing long-term support or are needing support beyond postpartum preparation, I refer out to other clinicians.
Please contact me for additional information on this service.
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I started working with moms long before I became a mother myself (about 10 years!). I have extensive experience providing service coordination, case management, and therapy during this time. I also have advanced training in perinatal mood disorders from Postpartum Support International.
If you’d like to learn more about training and experience, you can take a look at my CV here.